Recently, I have started playing ping pong again. Growing up, My Dad, my brother and I used to play ping pong all of the time! We would have tournaments at night before we went to bed. All three of us are pretty competitive people and none of us like to lose. Over time, we would constantly try to get better and exploit each others weaknesses. My weakness was and is my backhand shot.
I would spend hours trying to work on my backhand. I would spend so much time working on overcoming my weakness. Overtime, my backhand got a little better but has never become great.
I remember one day my Dad said to me, “Stop working so hard on your weakness and start focusing on your strengths.” Huh, it never even occurred to me to do that. My strength is my serve and forehand spike. I started to work on my serve and my forehand. What I found was this: if I could serve it really well people would be forced to hit the ball to my forehand. My serve would tee up my forehand spike! As I worked on my strengths I began to become a better ping pong player.
Why is it so easy to focus on our weaknesses and ignore our strengths? It could be because people tend to always point out our weaknesses and ignore our strengths. They tend to see that one bad grade on your report card, or that one day you got to work late, or the one time you lost your temper, or that one accident or speeding ticket on your record.
What if we decided that instead of spending all of our time trying to improve our weaknesses, we asked God to help us in the areas we were weak and we poured our effort into our strengths.
The apostle Paul put it this way in 2 Corinthians 12:9, But God said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
Did he really say that he would boast gladly about his weaknesses? That sounds like a crazy idea! What if it were true? What if we could give our weaknesses to God and rely on His power? What if we focused our effort on our strengths?
Everyone has strengths and everyone has weaknesses.
My good friend Les Morrison recently said, “if you look for the bad in people you will find it every time.”
What if we started focusing on our strengths and the strengths of others around us?
Let me tell you what would happen. Our self-confidence would grow! Our self-esteem would grow! Our self-image would be positive! You would be able to say “so long insecurity” and “Hey there self confidence”!
Here is the challenge:
Make a list of five of your strengths right now. List one way you can work on each one of those strengths going forward.
Remember, your life is NOT small. You have so much to offer when you focus on your strengths!
Guys! Have you been waiting in anticipation of the “Exciting Announcement” I hinted at in my last post? I bet you have. But first, a little background.
Chris & I spent the first 13 years of our marriage doing youth ministry. (Read more about that here & here.) We love teens and young adults and are passionate about helping them live their lives to the full, just like were passionate about helping all of you!
One area in particular that the Lord has highlighted for us to focus on with this age group is dating. Relationships, sex, dating…”are they the one?” pretty much consume a chunk of our mental capacity at this stage in our lives and rightly so. Aside from your decision to follow the Lord, choosing who you’re going to date and ultimately marry is one of the largest and most impacting decisions of your life. And statistically, when you take a look at the world around us, were doing a pretty terrible job of setting people up to be in a healthy, thriving relationship.
Our culture is dominated by marriages that aren’t working. You’re constantly hearing of couples that are breaking up or just “falling out of love.” It’s pretty obvious that healthy relationships don’t just happen on their own. Now, there are a TON of resources out there to help couples once they’re married, but there is not much designed to educate people prior to walking down the aisle. The problem was apparent and the glaring desire to find a solution started stirring in us.
So, after over a decade of research, first hand experience of working with teens & young adults AND navigating the waters of our own relationship through high school and college,
something very significant formed.
So without further adieu, we’re extremely excited to tell you about something the Lord placed in us so long ago. I’d like to present you with:
“The Pursuit of Love” is a dating conference designed to prepare teens and young adults to be in a healthy and godly relationship. We want to teach people how to be in a healthy God-honoring relationship that leads to the thriving marriage they so desire. As well as what in the world that actually looks like in the 21st century :)
Our goal with this conference is to be very real, honest, practical and open about this topic; we’ll even give you a glimpse into our relationship. Buckle Up. ;) Pursuit of Love is open to teens, young adults and parents of teens as well!
This conference is coming up SOON! Next weekend to be exact, and we’re also excited to announce that we’re able to bring it to everyone completely free! BUT we do need you to register pretty please.
Check out the quick video below to hear directly from Chris and I on the topic and for ALL the details and to register just follow this link.
Thanks in advance for the love, support and PRAYER! :) We so want to turn the tide on this culture and show people how to do relationships the right way. We believe with all our hearts that the information we’re going to share at the conference has the potential to be life-changing!
Until next time,
P.S Obviously we want everyone to attend the conference BUT if you are not able audio and video of the weekend will be for sale. We’ll keep u posted! Stay tuned for all the excitement…